WestViking wrote:Those who we let into the intimate part of our lives along with children are on loan from our Creator. We never know who will be called home or when, let alone the why of it all. I think that is part of the plan as if we knew when those we hold dear were going to leave us, we would go mad with dread. As it is, we have to cope with the loss, emptiness and our thoughts of what might have been. We are crippled as we truly have become 'one flesh' for better or worse and feel only half there with a mate gone. The emotional hurts are harder to deal with then a physical hurt. On the outside we look much the same, but inside we are in turmoil. Worse, talking out our hurt is hard as we grow used to a form of shorthand we use for communicating with a spouse. Decades of shared experience do that. Sparse words kindle memories of similar or appropriate situations and a nod or laughter that signifies understanding. Such conversations with others is not possible so we have to relearn communications with other people.
All I can think to do is take it one stinkin' day at a time and let the future take care of itself.
At one point in my life, I sat down with a clergyman I admired for his grasp of theology. I had certain pulls in my life that I did not understand and hoped he could help. His advice was simple: "Keep an eye out for those who need a hand; not help - a hand. Do what you can and God will guide you."backhoe wrote: Maybe MaryAnn and I can help each other with that. All I can think to do is take it one stinkin' day at a time and let the future take care of itself.
Edward Kennedy wrote:DIfferent things happen every day, good and bad...but all are exciting.
Edward Kennedy wrote:Looking back, even the bad times are good...
backhoe wrote:Edward Kennedy wrote:Looking back, even the bad times are good...
Like tempering steel. I learned a lot about people in hard times- admittedly it was things my parents had told me about, reality was just confirmation.
Even in the worst moments of my recent troubles there were acts of kindness and goodness and moments of fun and humor.
And some of the best times and memories with both wives were when we were dirt-poor and struggling- because we had each other first and foremost.
backhoe wrote:We are under a "severe thunderstorm watch" here- "watch" my furry butt- there's thunder & lightning & rain all around.
I emailed a heads-up to MaryAnn and soon as the lightning started pealing I got a Border Collie in my lap- he's never done that before. I have a pansy for a Son...
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