His wife burned his wardrobe to ashes

[Doctor Dusseldorf]

One mild October afternoon in Toronto, Steve Easton sat on the front
porch of his small, ramshackle wooden house. A small grey cat peered
warily out of the window, perched on a pile of Easton's homemade fliers
about the Easton Alliance for the Prevention of Family Violence, which
runs support groups for both battered men and women. It's hard to know
what to expect from a self-proclaimed "abused man"-someone
touchy-feely, fragile, and bohemian, plying his visitor with herbal
tea. But Easton, who is thirty-one, resembles one of the college-age
guys in a Budweiser beer commercial. He is clean-cut and well built,
blow-dried hair and a Gap-style dress shirt. Easton wasn't remotely
interested in the issue of domestic violence until he fell in love at
the age of twenty-two, and fell deeper, into a traumatically volatile
romance.

His lover had seen her mother abuse her father. Ursula approached her
love the same way. She called him "cock-sucker" and "prick." She chose
what clothes he could wear to work, arguing that certain ties or shirts
would attract his female colleagues. If he disregarded her choices, he
came home to find his wardrobe burned to ashes. She insisted, as Dana
had to Peter, that he couldn't go out with his friends. If he did, she
locked him out of the house for the night. He wasn't permitted to read
the Toronto Sun, because the tabloid carries daily photos of a woman in
a bikini - the "Sunshine Girl"- and that was evidence that he lusted
after other women. When she started a fight, she would follow him from
room to room in their house, keeping him up all night: "I'm not
finished with you!" Exhausted, he came late to work too many times.
Ursula punched him, hurled bottles and books at his head, and shoved
him through the glass pane of their dining-room window. But it wasn't
until the day he hit her back that Easton resolved to leave her.
Homeless and now unemployed, he went in search of counseling. One
organization, Education Wife Assault, handed him a pamphlet entitled
"Why Husband Abuse Is a Red Herring." Other shelters and family-service
organizations responded similarly, reflecting the views of prominent
Toronto columnist Michele Landsberg, who wrote, "The next time a men's
advocate starts moaning about 'husband-battering,' question his
material and suspect his motives. He sure isn't operating from a basis
of reality - and he probably knows it."

Since it began, in 1993, The Easton Alliance - which is perpetually
broke - has received between three and ten calls a day, 1,000 to 4,000
calls each year, from men who are enmeshed in violent relationships
they cannot get out of. The reasons are as multifarious as they are for
battered women: the men are afraid for their children; they are
unemployed, or working class; they can't afford new housing. Some men
love their wives and don't want to leave them, just want them to stop;
others are too depressed to get out, or they've taken cover in booze
and don't have the wits any more; some think they can take it and
can't. None of these reasons should be surprising, given that men can
be broken-down souls, that they can care passionately about their
children, that patriarchy may control the economy, but millions of
individual males are flat broke. Yet as Easton discovered when he
founded his group, the politics that once proclaimed family violence to
be a private affair now proclaim it a woman's affair. There is no
longer room - if there ever was - for men to be victims themselves.

>From "Women Behaving Badly" by Patricia Pearson

http://www.dadsnow.org/essay/PEARSON.HTM

[carfix2000ca]

After my first wife went to a lawyer and had me kicked me out so she could move her boyfriend in....she built a bonfire in the yard and burned all my clothes in front of the kids.

Little did she know that 1 1/2 years later it would bite her in the a$$ in the courtroom when the judge took custody away from her

[Hailey]

She called him "c--k-sucker" and "pr--k

You know I have met many women who are incredibly offended by the "c-word" but use those words for men themselves. It's a terrible inconsistency. Nobody should be use those kind of words and most especially not to someone they love.

She chose
what clothes he could wear to work, arguing that certain ties or shirts
would attract his female colleagues. If he disregarded her choices, he
came home to find his wardrobe burned to ashes. She insisted, as Dana
had to Peter, that he couldn't go out with his friends. If he did, she
locked him out of the house for the night. He wasn't permitted to read
the Toronto Sun, because the tabloid carries daily photos of a woman in
a bikini - the "Sunshine Girl"- and that was evidence that he lusted
after other women. When she started a fight, she would follow him from
room to room in their house, keeping him up all night: "I'm not
finished with you!" Exhausted, he came late to work too many times.
Ursula punched him, hurled bottles and books at his head, and shoved
him through the glass pane of their dining-room window. But it wasn't
until the day he hit her back that Easton resolved to leave her.

I do tend to be jealous (yes, big flaw) but this woman is just insane. She belongs in jail.

After my first wife went to a lawyer and had me kicked me out so she could move her boyfriend in....she built a bonfire in the yard and burned all my clothes in front of the kids.

What insane behaviour. I'm glad she didn't get to raise the kids.

[Doctor Dusseldorf]

What insane behaviour. I'm glad she didn't get to raise the kids.

I heard a female police officer call in to CFRA and comment on this issue last year. Someone called an openline show to mention how underreported female domestic violence against men is. The next caller after him identified herself as an Ottawa Police officer. " I just had to call in support of that previous caller. Women are using weapons and I cannot believe how many of these calls are coming in. Especially stabbings. Calls of men being stabbed by wives or girlfriends. Almost every night we get one of these, they are either stabbing them or hitting them over the head with heavy objects, but you never hear anything about it". The call was short, and I think the officer cut it short . (probably taking a professional risk just by calling in to an open line show)